New goal: focus on the 20% and stop making rash decisions
Benjamin Tseng: 1. relax
Benjamin Tseng: 2. i think
Benjamin Tseng: you are a smart and talented girl
Benjamin Tseng: who stresses out
Benjamin Tseng: about
Benjamin Tseng: (a) pleasing everyone
Benjamin Tseng: (b) finding perfection
Benjamin Tseng: to the point where
Benjamin Tseng: i think you make bad decisions which are good in the short-term
Benjamin Tseng: but dont position yourself well for the long-term
Benjamin Tseng: which makes you more stressed
Benjamin Tseng: what you need to do
Benjamin Tseng: is to stop, calm down, and really
Benjamin Tseng: even though its very tool-like
Benjamin Tseng: and it goes against everything
Benjamin Tseng: you believe in
Benjamin Tseng: but you need to stop
Benjamin Tseng: and make yourself
Benjamin Tseng: a long-term plan
Benjamin Tseng: i think b/c you dont have a “long term vision”
Benjamin Tseng: you (a) make decisions which are good for you in the short-run but bad in the long-run
Benjamin Tseng: and
Benjamin Tseng: (b) you feel like you have no control over your life
Benjamin Tseng: get back that control, and stop making bad decisions for your long-term
Serena Wu: what is an example of a short-term bad long-run decision
Benjamin Tseng: by sitting down
Benjamin Tseng: with a piece of paper
Serena Wu: b/c doesnt one thing lead to the next?
Benjamin Tseng: but thats the thing
Benjamin Tseng: ur flying by the seat of your pants
Benjamin Tseng: so ur making
Benjamin Tseng: good decisions
Benjamin Tseng: setting up meetings
Serena Wu: ok so say im thinking longterm
Benjamin Tseng: opportunities
Benjamin Tseng: etc
Benjamin Tseng: but
Serena Wu: then im being idealistic
Benjamin Tseng: its horrible for you
Benjamin Tseng: b/c ur a perfectionist
Serena Wu: and not practical
Benjamin Tseng: and you have these ideals
Benjamin Tseng: that you’re not moving towards
Benjamin Tseng: b/c you’re jumping everywhere
Benjamin Tseng: and frantically making decisions about
Benjamin Tseng: book deals
Benjamin Tseng: and making a chair
Benjamin Tseng: and checking out China
Benjamin Tseng: and doing a photoshoot
Serena Wu: yeah because otherwise
Serena Wu: i’d be doing nothing!!
Benjamin Tseng: but see
Benjamin Tseng: i get that in the short-run
Benjamin Tseng: doing nothing sucks
Benjamin Tseng: but what u need to do
Benjamin Tseng: is to do nothing
Benjamin Tseng: and think about
Benjamin Tseng: what is this long-term plan
Benjamin Tseng: and what i mean by that
Serena Wu: but ive done SO MUCH THINKING
Benjamin Tseng: is understanding
Benjamin Tseng: lol
Benjamin Tseng: honestly
Benjamin Tseng: i dont think u have
Benjamin Tseng: i tell sophia that i think u are one of the most short-term thinking, frantic people
Benjamin Tseng: ive ever met
Benjamin Tseng: i think u are talented
Benjamin Tseng: and the only reason
Benjamin Tseng: uve gotten as far as u have
Serena Wu: so waht else am i supposed to think about?
Benjamin Tseng: and have survived
Benjamin Tseng: is b/c ur so talented
Benjamin Tseng: lol
Benjamin Tseng: as i was saying earlier
Benjamin Tseng: at Bain we have an expression called 80/20
Benjamin Tseng: its the idea that
Benjamin Tseng: 20% of the things
Benjamin Tseng: make up 80% of the value
Benjamin Tseng: or in other words
Benjamin Tseng: i’m telling you
Benjamin Tseng: to ignore 80% of the things
Benjamin Tseng: that are least important
Benjamin Tseng: and focus on the 20% of things which are
Benjamin Tseng: another reason that i think ur always stressed
Benjamin Tseng: is that u
Benjamin Tseng: have a hard time
Benjamin Tseng: focusing on 20%
Benjamin Tseng: you’re trying to look at 100%
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